What is the Cost of Your Anger?
Anger is an emotion characterized by antagonism toward someone or something you feel has deliberately done you wrong. Adapted from the Encyclopedia of Psychology
“Anyone can become angry, that is easy, but to be angry with the right person at the right time, and for the right purpose and in the right way that is not within everyone’s power and that is not easy.” —ARISTOTLE
According to expert statistics, almost a third of people polled said they have a close friend or family member who has a problem with controlling their anger. More than one in ten of those polled said that they themselves have had trouble controlling their anger, and one in four reported they sometimes worry about how angry they feel.
What did you do the Last Time you got Angry?
Did you withdraw into a cold, stony silence and fantasize revenge? Or did you become insulting and verbally abusive? Slam a door? Throw a glass? Hurt someone physically?
While anger is a normal, usually healthy, human emotion, constant or uncontrollable anger can be devastating. When out of control emotions turn destructive, you will most likely find yourself facing increasing problems in every corner of your life at work, in your personal relationships, and in the overall quality of your health. At that point, your anger and how you express it is no longer healthy.
Testimonial: “Man, I sure did not want to come today, but now I know how this is going to be and I see I definitely need help. You get me. I was worried I would have to deal with some touchy feely counselling sh*t” Reg M., White Rock, B.C.
So What to do?
The counselling world is flooded with expert “anger management” information and advice. However, most of it is designed only to control behavior. For instance, the advice to “count to ten” or “pound a pillow” or even “remind yourself of what you really like about your spouse” is only temporarily effective, like putting a Band-Aid on a deep wound.
Controlling Anger Before it Controls You.
Anger management counselling doesn’t try to keep you from feeling anger or encourage you to hold it in. Anger management is the process of learning to recognize signs that you’re becoming angry, and taking action to calm down and deal with the situation in an effective way.
You can’t eliminate the emotion of anger any more than you can get rid of people, places, things or situations that irritate you nor in most cases can you change them. However, you can learn to recognize your reactions instead of letting them control you. In order to do this, your goal in anger management counselling is to find and understand the source and the triggers of your rage.
Testimonial: “Counselling was not easy; it was painful several times. But nothing good is easy. The challenging discussions really go to the core where I was. Thanks, Barbara!” Brent J., Burnaby, B.C.
Do You Need Counselling?
Can you fix this by yourself? The simple answer is, NO!! if you could have, you would have already.
Barbara Mulski has many years of experience dealing with clients with anger issues. She has witnessed firsthand the huge transformations clients undergo from anger management counselling.
Although friendly and approachable, Barbara has a direct, no nonsense approach. She has a unique ability to quickly recognize and call out the underlying causes of her client’s anger causes such as stress, anxiety and boredom.
With proven techniques and tools, Barbara guides her clients through the grid locked beliefs of anger that are impacting the quality of their lives, and helps them find their courage to become a better person.
Testimonial: “You created a safe environment where I could go to places I needed to, to help me understand and change repetitive behaviors. You were part of my personal board of directors and encouraged me to be a better person.” Tim S., Vancouver, B.C.