Anger Management

• What is your anger costing you?
• Are you suffering from a lack of control over your anger?
• Have you damaged your relationships as a result?
• Are things getting out of hand at work?

 

If you are determined to understand and manage your anger, and can see that it costs you more than you gain from making yourself angry, then I can help you.

Talking to me as your counsellor will help you get to the real root of the problem much faster than talking to friends or family. I am trained to recognize the signs and may actually help you discover that stress or even depression may be at the root of all that gets you riled up.

Recognizing or want help does not mean that you are weak or you think that everyone else but you knows what to do.  No, it simply means that you need help to sort out this aspect of your life.

I invite you to put aside any ideas of pride, and get on the road to a healthy happier you.

“Resentment is… like taking poison and waiting for the other person to die”

Let’s take a look at what anger is, and how you could learn to control it.

Anger is an overly-upset emotion, linked to aggression and hostility; or the instinctive ‘fight response’. Your body fills with adrenalin and other chemicals that make you feel enraged, often flushed, and very uncomfortable. It is normally precipitated when you face problems of frustration, threats to your self-concept, or when others ‘misbehave’ according to your rules.

However, it’s not these events that ’cause’ your anger. Actually it’s the attitude that you adopt towards the frustration or threat that more directly causes the anger.

• Would you like to be able to cool down?
• Do you want to be able to handle your problems more effectively and productively?

 

Allowing your anger to get out of control normally results in some detriment to you; some loss of face; or loss of dignity. People who lose control of their anger often feel shame, embarrassment, guilt or depression after their raging outbursts. This often results in a loss of face, a sense of self-hatred, and a loss of social standing at home or at work. These are high prices to pay for a few minutes of angry madness.

I can teach you how to to deal with the onset of anger, its progression, and the residual features of anger.

If you can learn how to do that, then you can think straight about your problem, and communicate effectively, to try to change the situation that is getting you wound up.   This is truly what is meant by anger management.